Why is it that any time I mention that I may only want ONE child, I get the same crazy shocked look from people? "Only one, are you sure?" "But Peyton will be lonely" "Don't you want a sibling for her"...good grief, let it go!
Now I'm not 100% sure that I only want 1 child, but I'm not 100% sure that I want more than 1 either. I myself am an only child (feel free to gasp now), and as crazy as it may sound I really enjoyed being an only child. I wasn't lonely and I didn't feel like I was missing out on anything. Actually when I went to stay with friends that had brothers and/or sisters, I was usually ready to come home to some peace and quiet. It was fun for a few hours, then I was over it.
And believe it or not, I was not spoiled rotten. I worked from high school on with a break my freshman year in college so I could adjust (plus freshman parking was impossible). I worked and I appreciated the things I was given.
I just hate the stigma that's given to only children. Just because you're an only child doesn't mean you're a brat and it doesn't mean you're sad and lonely. I also can't stand the blank stares like I'm completely insane for even mentioning the possibility of not having a 2nd child! I haven't tossed out the possibility at all, I'm even leaning towards it some days but there's nothing wrong with either decision.
I'll step down from my soap box now!
IF we have children, we will only be having one.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you!! I get the same crazy look and gasps when I say that we're not having another. It's like everyone should want to have 20!
ReplyDeletepreach it!!
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