This post spawned from a conversation my husband and I had the other evening. We realized we're pretty old school parents...and we like that. This is nothing against the way other people do things, it's just us. We prefer dinners at home vs. going out to eat, spending time together vs. leaving Peyton with someone so we can go out. We make sure to have a date night every few weeks, but we're home by 10pm. We go to the occasional social event without Peyton, sure, but it's few and far between.
A while back my Mom was talking about how different it was when I was little. People didn't go out to eat all the time, go on lots of vacations, go out and party a lot when they had kids. They stayed at home with their family...where they were supposed to be. I think back about my childhood and I really like what I remember. My parents went out on the occasional date night and had get together's at the house, but I never remember them sending me to stay with family so they could go out and get hammered and party all night weekend after weekend. Unfortunately, I know people where this is the norm for them. I also remember loving our weekends, we spent them together as a family. It was a big deal to order a pizza and rent a movie for us to watch together, and I always looked forward to it.
These are the kinds of things I want Peyton to remember about our family when she grows up. I want her to look back and think "my parents really showed me how important I was". I've just noticed how many people are constantly on the go...they don't even slow down to enjoy each other. Parents now expect their infants to adapt to THEIR lifestyle and THEIR schedule. It's all so selfish to me. I like those old school values where your child comes before your wants, and have done (and will continue to) my best to keep those alive.